Recently I have been plagued by people who want me to change my attitude towards society. Or even my point of view regarding humanity. I thought to myself, ‘there is nothing wrong with my attitude towards idiots, people’s attitudes towards me needs to change’. Expressing that viewpoint would have gotten me further lecturing so instead of walking the path of self-mutilation I decided to sit down and get behind the reasoning of a person who wishes to change my ideas on humanity.
Why is there this innate need among certain people, to change what they do not understand? What makes you tick? You are entitled to your opinion but that doesn’t make it a religion to be believed by everyone.
My opinion
It has to do with the person in question’s view of society. That view of society is determined by their inter-action with the environment and more specifically with people in said environment. It’s possible these people generalize and then without thinking (absence of logic) assume that they know everything about humanity. Being naïve is another quality this person possesses. Blindly ignoring facts and then once reality sets in they seem so surprised and cannot believe that humanity is fallible.
Option 2 is a complex*. A control complex. Always being in charge of their lives aren’t enough, so they start seeking outside their spheres of control. Excuses and interpretations are then used to try and justify the ‘intervention’. The length of this ‘brainwashing’ has no limits and once it starts, as with low-intensity warfare, it can continue for a very long time.
Once this rhetoric fails to find a hold on you, a label is stuck to you. From being selfish to misadjusted, the character assassination is unbelievable. It seems that not being able to change you is seen as a personal failure for them. The strange thing is that the person who wishes to change you never listens to logic reasoning. A logical approach to this problem is just not going to work as the person doesn’t operate on logic, or have the same logic reasoning system as misanthropes. I am not socially impaired in any way by my current misanthropic lifestyle; I get along much better because I don’t involve myself with people who will make trouble for me later on. This doesn’t make me anti-social, just selective about whom I associate with.
I don’t need to change because I don’t believe in ‘the goodness’ of my fellow man, because people are inherently ignorant. Humanity only works if applied equally and in broad strokes by everyone to everyone else. I choose the people I want to interact with on the basis of logic, observation and common grounds. I don’t behave like a loud-mouthed lout so I don’t congregate with them, and this has been my standpoint since I could first reason for myself. I don’t think that the idea of being associated with such a crowd is worth the risk or the illusion of a friendship that would result from such an association.
It is strange [yet ironically ‘normal’] that the ‘outsiders’ of the world are always expected to change and fit in with the ‘normal’ part of society. The status quo favors ‘normality and the expected’. This must be what the change is all about. Trying to make you fit in. There is a saying ‘why try to fit in, when you were born to stand out’. It’s almost how I feel. But I don’t want to stand out, not even among normal people. I like the ‘quiet’ life. I don’t like making waves where there doesn’t have to be any.
I observe people and how they behave. And in the observations I have made, only a few have been off the mark. I keep holding onto the idea that one day, the rest will prove me right.
* (psychoanalysis) A combination of emotions and impulses that have been rejected from awareness but still influence a person’s behavior.
